Sunday 2 March 2014

It's a Good Life.

What I learnt from the BDC in the last few months:
1.       It’s okay to cry. But it’s more okay to smile. It’s a habit, not a necessity.
2.       Keep yourself entertained. Otherwise Vinni is always there to take the lead.
3.       Have Hit fights. Or polish fights. It keeps your laughter muscles in good working condition.
4.       It’s totally okay to indulge in death humour. If something is kept ‘safe’ in some cupboard, it’s okay to say that we should call Maa and ask her. And then to say that the line is busy at the moment.
5.       Good food is very important for life. Learn to cook like Wifey, or drive away to Faridabad.
6.       Parties are also important. Going to Goa is a nice idea once in a while.
7.       Sleeping excessively is always easy. But then, it’s a waste of time.
8.       Sitting on your wife or putting your kid in a bucket are good entertainment practices.
9.       General knowledge should be a priority. Otherwise people will take your case and not let you live. Read the paper.
10.   Half-smile or scratching the head all the time will make us call you GB and no, you don’t want that.
11.   Leaving your in-laws/baby/family/a rented house are not sacrifices if you get to live here on a full-time basis. This is a party house, admit it.
12.   It’s okay to call any random ugly girl as Zehreeli.
13.   Walking regularly is important. But we will still love you if you have elephant thighs, don’t worry.
14.   The babies in the house should not be manhandled. Or they can be; it’s fun.
15.   Cleanliness does not exist anymore. It’s okay. A messy house is better than an empty house.
16.   Birthday celebrations may involve balloon fights on the road, face-in-the-cake moments and 1000 pictures.
17.   Each time you visit your hair laser clinic, it’s okay to post your Rajnikant style photo in the group. It’s proof that you’re not sleeping in Saket but are actually busy; that’s why you didn’t come to office.
18.   Not bathing for days is okay; no one cares.
19.   Pink pajamas with pink jackets are totally in. Really, I mean it.
20.   Keeping quiet in an argument makes the definition of an argument void.
21.   There should be a designated person who decides what should be cooked for breakfast, lunch and dinner daily.
22.   No matter the number of people, there is always space in the house for everyone.
23.   Foreheads are not normally so big. It’s okay if you do; we still love you.
24.   It’s okay if you don’t get a beard at the age of 18. We won’t abandon you.
25.   Snowy is not a dog. Accept it.
26.   It’s nice to decide every morning which car you should drive today. We have a lot of variety.
27.   Weird songs and weird dances are most welcome, any time, any day. We value creative minds.
28.   Missing clothes are not really missing. They’re here only…somewhere.
29.   Little people are also interesting creatures.
30.   It’s good to talk. And listen. It makes you more intelligent.
31.   Jealousy is natural. But gaining victory over it is real satisfaction. He loves you more than you deserve anyway.
32.   Fitting on a single bed is not difficult. Fitting in a single car is also not difficult.
33.   If the house can function normally without her, the world can function without you too. Yes, that’s your value.
34.   Home food every day is not good for health.
35.   This time will also end. BDC may also end one day. But for now, this is real awesomeness.
36.   Never ever leave your Facebook account logged in.
37. Everything can be done in wholesale. Attending parties, shopping, or even going for medical check-ups. That's real unity.

Bitterness- Letting Go.

I think I’ve been splashing around in the water, fearing that I might drown, for a very long time now. I feel like I’ve been waiting for someone to come into the water and pull me to the shore. And if people just sit at the shore and watch, I shout at them, hating them for being safe. What I don’t realise is that for them, the depth isn’t visible. And what I don’t realise is that if I just float, the current will automatically take me to the shore.
I’ve been stupid; very stupid. I’ve let go of emotions which I should not have and I have held close the emotions I should have let go a long time ago. Fear, betrayal, loss, pain, abandonment, loneliness- just words aren’t they-simple to type, very hard to let go. I expected. I waited for them to-what? Pity me? No. To realise I’ve been through a lot? No; I read the paper and I am generally aware that what I went through wasn’t the worst of it all. There are worse situations one can find himself in. Then what had I been waiting for?
I have no answer to that, really.
To suffer after the worst is over, is purely one’s own choice. The human mind is capable of withstanding a lot of hard to understand situations. But the society isn’t. For them, death is scary. It’s a synonym for all those words which I mentioned above. But now, after four months, death is a truth of life. Life goes on, as always. I didn’t die with her, did I? I’m still living. And it is my choice whether I pity myself or I let go of that and smile. Not for them, but for myself. Because it’s true, no one does jump into the water to save you.
Also, now that I choose to float instead of splashing around for help, I realise that the view is brilliant when expectations aren’t fogging my vision. In the end, it’s a one-man show. Everyone stands (or floats) alone. Another important thing I now remember is that I can swim. Why do I even need help then?